Conversation – figuring it all out

We all know how annoying it is when we’re in the midst of saying something and someone either interrupts us or finishes up our thoughts. I know there’s this whole theory about how in some parts of the world if you don’t barge in, you’ll never get a word in edgewise. Still, I prefer that option to the interruption. It’s so unsatisfying when we don’t get to reach our own conclusion. We all really do know what we’re saying and we also know the outcome, even if we are sometimes figuring it out as we go along.

Now, let’s think how often we do that to children. We complete their sentences… and sometimes, even their thoughts. Ouchh. Are these the children we are empowering for a life well-lived. I know, children sometimes do go on and sometimes it’s a L-O-N-G story, that’s for sure. But there are still options to finishing up one’s words or thoughts. How about we suggest they write the rest down, or draw it, or practice acting it out… And later, when we have a better moment, we might listen. What usually happens is that they’ve moved on to something else by then. The good news, though, is that they have the space to reach their own conclusion.

Later on in life, isn’t that what we all need… a chance to figure out our own stuff. We know the answers for ourselves better than anyone else. We just need to know how to delve in there. And isn’t it just so soothing when we feel truly heard and understood ?

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